MIND: Impermanence

Because if you base your self-worth on what everyone else thinks of you,
you hand all your power over to other people and become dependent
on a source outside of yourself for validation.

Then you wind up chasing after something you have no control over,
and should that something suddenly place its focus somewhere else,
or change its mind and decide you’re no longer very interesting,
you end up with a full-blown identity crisis.

You Are a Badass // Jen Sincero

SOL: Bodies

1. Even the models from magazines admit they don’t look like that in real life.

2. The media will point out your flaws so that you buy more products to help you assimilate to their idea of beauty. I want you to step away from technology for a day and then look at yourself in the mirror and say, “I’m beautiful.

3. Your ass might have a few dimples. Your upper arms might jiggle when you wave. Your thighs might even, heaven forbid, touch when you stand with your feet together. These factors do not determine the quality of your life or the beauty of your soul.

4. When you’re an old, frail, saggy woman I bet you’ll be wishing you ate that cupcake or had that second glass of wine when you were out with friends. Indulge in moderation and you will not gain a pound.

5. Even if you do gain a pound – who cares? All it means is that there’s more of you to love and I love you more than anyone in the world.

6. Be in love with yourself (every inch of it) and your life (every second of it).

7. Please please please maintain a healthy relationship with food. Praying to a porcelain god will only leave you full of regret and empty of feeling and people tend to glamorize starvation. You know who I admire? Someone who glows with health and feasts with relish. Don’t compromise the simplest joys of life.

8. If you have food available throughout the day, EAT IT. The majority of the world struggles to find clean water and food to eat so I hope you understand how blessed and privileged you are.

9. Do not ever compare your body to someone else’s. Stress less about your neighbour and appreciate yourself. You have been made differently. Women come in all shapes and sizes and all of them are beautiful. Strive to be the best version of yourself, but keep your goals realistic and healthy.

10. You. Are. Beautiful.

11. Embrace your imperfections; bear-hug them until they suffocate because if you don’t face them now someone else will try to wield their power over you. I want you to be able to look anyone who dares comment on your body in the eye and tell them to fuck off.

12. If anyone ever tries to bully you, call me. I’ll take care of you as long as you need me to.

13. I have spent 16 years loathing my body, and I am only now acknowledging its value. I aspire to a better fate for you sweetheart.

14. Take care of yourself. We take our health for granted under the misguided notion that it will always be there. You have hands, arms, legs, feet and a heart that want nothing more than to support you. Support them too. I’ll be here to fill in the cracks.

15. Exercise for your endorphins. Stay active and fit. Sweat once a day because you can. Learn to love the feeling of being strong and capable.

16. It is more socially acceptable to hate your body than it is to love it. Let that sink in.

17. Remember that I love you, always and forever, no matter what you look like.

3AM Thoughts // AKA “Things I Will Teach My Sister About Body Confidence.”