I have never been able to understand people with consistent lives – people who, for example, grow up in a liberal Catholic household and stay that way; or who in junior high school are already laying down a record on which to run for president one day. Imagine having no discarded personalities, no vestigial selves, no visible ruptures with yourself, no gulf of self-forgetfulness, nothing that requires explanation, no alien version of yourself that requires humor and accommodation. What kind of life is that?
Tongues Untied // Michael Warner
The true paradises are the paradises that we have lost.
// Marcel Proust
The psyche is much smarter than consciousness allows.
We bury things so deep we no longer remember there was anything to bury.
Our bodies remember. Our neurotic states remember. But we don’t.
Why Be Happy When You Could Be Normal? // Jeanette Winterson
– What happens to people that love each other?
– I suppose they have whatever they have, and they are more fortunate than others. Then one of them gets the emptiness forever.
Islands In The Stream // Ernest Hemingway
What have you sacrificed to get to where you are now?
What would you sacrifice to be able to get it back?
Love. Either it is a remnant of something degenerating, something which once has been immense, or it is a particle of what will in the future develop into something immense; but in the present it is unsatisfying, it gives much less than one expects.
// Anton Chekhov
I like things that can’t ever be quite pinned down.
// Margaret Atwood
If you obsess over whether you are making the right decision, you are basically assuming that the universe will reward you for one thing and punish you for another.
The universe has no fixed agenda. Once you make any decision, it works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each thought, feeling, and action that you experience.
If this sounds too mystical, refer again to the body. Every significant vital sign- body temperature, heart rate, oxygen consumption, hormone level, brain activity, and so on- alters the moment you decide to do anything… decisions are signals telling your body, mind, and environment to move in a certain direction.
// Deepak Chopra
When someone tells you they’ve just bought a house, they might as well tell you they no longer have a personality. You can immediately assume so many things: that they’re locked into jobs they hate; that they’re broke; that they spend every night watching videos; that they’re fifteen pounds overweight; that they no longer listen to new ideas. It’s profoundly depressing.
Generation X: Tales for an Accelerated Culture // Douglas Coupland
In periods of rapid personal change, we pass through life as though we are spellcast. We speak in sentences that end before finishing. We sleep heavily because we need to ask so many questions as we dream alone. We bump into others and feel bashful at recognizing souls so similar to ourselves.
Shampoo Planet // Douglas Coupland